CHILD ABUSE
Child abuse occurs in different ways and scenarios across the globe with over a 95million children falling victim every year, according to the World Health Organization. Africa remains the epicentre of this destructive practice which in some cases have been mistaken for discipline and justified by culture. It won’t be too early to mention here that there is a clear-cut difference between child abuse and discipline. Punishment could be essential to instil some set of values in children; however, this sort of punishment is not synonymous with putting the life of a child in danger and any punishment that harm or can harm a child has become an “abuse”.
Also, because sex is related to a temporal anti-depressant and provides relief from stress and pressure, without paying attention to family planning and the use of contraceptives, many children are born out of plan. More often than not, this case is peculiar to indigent families where children become a money-making machine for their parents thereby rendering children’s intellect futile and their emotions of no essence. Oh Yes, Children also have will, intellect and emotions. They are human!
We must consider some type of child abuse, the effect on the child and the effect of this practice on society. Until we come to the acceptance that child abuse is destructive and it happens even when parents are innocently caring for their kids, we may continue to live in the delusion that child abuse is only about sexual molestation and trafficking.
TYPES OF CHILD ABUSE
- Physical Abuse: This is often time what many African parents refer to as punishment or discipline. This kind of abuse is characterized by beating and hitting that could be harmful to the child. Contrarily to what parents and guardians think, excessive beating or harming a child has been proven to be counterproductive in the training of a child. “Spanking plants seed of later violent behaviour and spanking doesn’t work”- AskDr.Sears.com
- Sexual Abuse: This is when an adult has sexual intercourse with a child. Compared to physical abuse, sexual abuse does not usually leave a glaring mark and it is more difficult to identify its victim. Yet, this abuse put children in an extremely traumatized condition.
- Psychological Abuse: It was earlier mentioned that children also have emotions and would naturally react within them to situations that they perceive as not palatable even though they may not be able to fully express themselves or rebel.
Turning children into money making machine- having them hawk around the street or sending them to a stranger’s house to work for money/food when their mates are in school is abuse that affects children psychologically and can ruin their self-esteem. Children who are quietly forced to live this way may appear unbothered but there’s something in them that yearns for what they are deprived of. All form of neglect and denying children of their basic right, including the opportunity to play may appear negligible but this has a great impact on the well-being and growth of a child.
Also, the kind of names children are called and how they are being addressed as a way of moulding/destroying them. I think I can hear you say what! How?
Shouting at children, calling them bad names and the use of abusive words has been found destructive to the well-being of a child. Even though this might not be measurable, it becomes evident in the lifestyle of a child if not stopped. Signs may include timidity and low self-esteem
EFFECTS OF CHILD ABUSE
The effect of child abuse (of whatever type) on a child is numerous, all of which can result in mental health problem. Mental health problem is a condition yet to be given utmost attention to in Africa and our silence on this is causing us more harm than good. Statistics revealed that 1 out of every 10 children and young people suffer mental health problem as a result of their responses to their daily lives. Facts gathered by Mental Health Foundation from the World Health Organization and various researches show that “20% of adolescents may experience a mental health problem in any given year. 50% of mental health problems are established by age 14. 10% of children and young people (aged 5 -16 years) have a clinically diagnosable mental problem, yet 70% of children and adolescent who experience mental health problems have not had appropriate interventions at a sufficiently early age”.
THE GOODNEWS!
The interesting thing about child abuse is that “it is not an accident, hence, it is controllable”. Here are a few ways:
- Love – Love is a language everyone understands, including children. Disciplining children in love without harm or bruise is effective in instilling in them moral values that are essential for attaining a beautiful future.
- Plan for your children – The potency of a man and fertility of a woman is not tested by the number of children. Have the number of children you can cater for. Children rejoice when they have access to basic things and “their joy is not tied to the quantity or the luxury but the access and enjoyment”.
- Befriend them – Often time adults act like they were never a child or tend to pretend like they were “holy children”. Until children know you will understand their plight, they won’t talk to you/confide in you. Children are not as ignorant as many adults think, they only shrink back out of fear and respect. When they need to talk, you should come to their mind as a parent/guardian.
- Be Peaceful – Live at peace with your spouse and the people around you. Children learn more from what they see than what they hear. When violence is seeing as a norm around them, they may not be able to tell when they are being abused and/or become abusive. It doesn’t matter what you tell them, they are watching you!
The list cannot be covered in this article but you must be aware of child abuse, the effects and how you can contribute your quota to see that children live and live well. The effect of child abuse on society at large is enormous.
Before a family (and a Nation) can boast of a successful succession plan and an assured posterity, the quality of life and well-being of her adolescent must be evaluated.